Are you wondering how you can bring back that loving into your marriage?
Do you remember what it was like when you and your partner would spend time cuddle on the couch or while lying in bed?
Do you remember when the touch of your partner made you lean into their shoulder and just nuzzle into their arms?
I can remember when my wife and I were dating and after we were married I would coming home after a long day of work and no matter how bad of a day I had and my wife would come up give me a hug and hold me in her arms and a calm peaceful feeling would come over me and I knew everything was going to be ok because I felt loved, accepted and safe. Do you remember times like that? The only other time I remember feeling that way was when I was a child about 8 years old and as a family, we would watch TV in the evening and I loved to crawl up on my Mom’s lap and cuddle her arms, and those feelings of acceptance, safety, and unconditional love would flood over me.
Do you remember feeling that way in your partner’s arms when you were dating or when you were first married? Do you remember being so in love that your heart ached when you were apart and you talked on the phone for hours? Where did those days go? Where did those feelings go? My mind became focused on this topic last Wednesday while I was in the middle of my stretching and exercise routine. The thought hit me hard that there are so many people struggling to make sense of everything from the news media constantly sharing how bad things are with the Covid-19 Delta Variant on the rise and all the stuff that is going on in Afghanistan, and you can also add the pressure being placed on parents to vaccinate their children, supervisors and small business owners requiring their employees to vaccinated or they have to find another job. Adding all that to a mom and dad trying to raise their children to be the best human beings they can be and training them to grow up exploring the possibilities of being the next Nobel Prize Winner, champion athlete, or the next best-selling author. The average American home has changed so much in the past year and the amount of stress seems to only be increasing. How are we able to combat all of these things and still make time to be together as a couple to strengthen, pray together, and encourage one another to hope for a better tomorrow and be there to comfort our children when they are looking for that assurance that no matter what happens they are accepted and unconditionally loved. I began to weep for the marriages going through all the things I listed above and asked “how can I help these families bring back that loving feeling and give them hope to weather the current storm they are facing?’ Then it hit me, I need to empower them with tools that not only bring back that loving feeling that they once felt for one another but also help them realize they have the power to create their life exactly as they want it to be and have an environment that saturates the entire family with that love. Do you remember the song by Hall and Oats titled You’ve Lost That Loving Feeling? If not you can listen to it here You’ve Lost That Loving Feeling This song explains exactly how the relationship between a couple begins to break down, the second verse reads. There’s no welcome look in your eyes When I reach for you And girl you’re starting to Criticize little things I do Ooh, it makes me just feel like cryin’ (baby) ‘Cause baby something beautiful’s dyin’. When you start to criticize little things I do is the exact same thing I found myself doing that began to erode my connection to my wife Valerie. I began to look for the things that were wrong instead of the things that were right, instead of focusing on the things I loved about her I could only see the things I didn’t like about her. The turning point in our relationship came as a result of the Master Key Experience course I attended in 2015. It was through that course I began to realize I was the person that was creating all of my unhappiness and because I did not know how to process my thoughts and feelings in a healthy way I did what any normal person in that state would do deflect the blame on their partner. Through the daily exercises, I began to notice how many times a day I had a negative thought about everyone I encountered that day. If I was running late for an appointment is was the person driving in the car in front of me that was causing me to be late while disregarding the fact that I could have left my house sooner. As continued to practice monitoring my thoughts I could see that negativity was running my thoughts feelings and actions and it had to stop now by using what is called the Law Of Substitution. The law of substitution is one of the seven laws of the mind that we are encouraged to apply to our daily lives in order to get the results we want in every area of our life. Do you want to get back that loving feeling in your marriage? If so please consider joining The Master Key Experience course this September. you can find more about it at the following link. If you would like to ask me any questions regarding what I have written in this post or have a conversation regarding the Master Key Experience course you can contact me through my website http://mentalktoyourwoman.com or my Facebook Page. MikeStewartCoaching I look forward to being a source of hope and empowerment to those individuals who would like to rebuild their relationship with their partner and get back that loving feeling.