Making Magic Out of Mayhem with Mediation — Judith M. Weigle, +-Author, Communications & Mediation Specialist in areas of Divorce & Family, Entertainment, Cultural Diversity, Real Estate & Business — Divorce Resources of Los Angeles
Is there a magic formula for taking the mayhem out of conflict?
Make mediation not war no matter what the dispute. Did you know the principles of effective communication and mediation can often alleviate animosity and move opposing parties to acceptable terms because the parties take control of the conflict resolution process?
Are divorce wars inevitable? When it comes to dismantling a marriage, is it also possible for couples to control their own settlement terms through mediation?
The answers might surprise you. Judith M. Weigle, Mediation Specialist of Divorce Resources in Los Angeles joins Tamara Leigh’s TREND ON on 4/16/14 LIVE at 10:00am CT for Part 1 to share how mediation strategies apply to areas beyond divorce to businesses, board rooms, organizations, and social circles.
Then on 4/23/14 LIVE at 10am CT Part 2, we’ll cover divorce and family disputes specifically — what are couple’s options in a divorce, when/if is it appropriate or necessary to hire an attorney, and how does mediation put couples on the same team towards resolution of terms (not necessarily of the marriage) instead of opposite corners in a boxing showdown?
Obviously, by the time people get to the point of filing for divorce, severing a business relationship, or seeking help in an adversarial situation, there’s already been a serious breakdown in communication, but by using a few key tools or honing some effective skills, as our expert guest Judith Weigle will explain, successful negotiating can be achieved.
Here’s a preview of some talking points we’ll cover:
Listening. “You’re not listening to me!” How often have we said or heard that?! “Active and uninterrupted listening doesn’t always happen,” says Judith. “When done differently in a productive mediation environment,” she adds, “all parties are allowed to speak freely and that goes a long way in identifying the issues and determining solutions.”
Respect/Apology. Opposing parties don’t have to feel it, but they must give it, even if it means the respect is given to the mediation process only and not the others involved. “An apology is a liberating action for the person giving it,” says Judith, “even if not accepted by the intended receiver.” Finding common ground for parties at odds doesn’t mean one side wins and the other waves the white flag in defeat. Mediation works towards a win-win outcome.
Humor. Jokes aside and most certainly not at the expense of either party/parties, humor eases tension and is also an important component of the mediation process. “Even in the most serious of circumstances,” says Judith, “a little levity goes a long way for easing tensions and eliminating roadblocks to get to the end destination of a mutually beneficial outcome.”
Mediation & mediation skills provide a better option and outcome in most contexts. Even though every case is unique and sometimes hiring attorneys is necessary, in many situtations, especially a mutual desire for divorce — mediation can make the most sense. Sure beats battling it out in court for a boatload of legal fees!
IF you have questions you’d like Judith to address, CALL IN LIVE 10-10:30am Central Time to 1-323-580-5755 then press 1 to get into the host cue on 4/16/14 or 4/23/14. You can also email questions to me ahead of time to firstname.lastname@example.org and I’ll be sure to ask Judith to address your questions or comments. You can listen to shows LIVE or after air time anytime via the links above.