“Fear is a Liar”
Fears, we all seem to have them, don’t we? Most of the fears we have aren’t real. They are silly movies we play in our minds over and over again, making them worse and worse. They are usually things that have already happened from our past that we wished we had done differently or things that haven’t happened yet, in the future that we make negative assumptions as to how they will turn out. If we focus to much thought and energy on these “silly lies” we tell ourselves, guess what, they become our reality. Another name for fear would be stress. If you really think about it, all our fears are stress induced and all of stress comes from our fears. Not a productive cycle is it?
Did you know that as human beings we are only born with two fears. The fear of loud noises and falling, that is it. Every other fear we have, is learned. Now some fears we learn are good. I think it is wise to fear running onto a crowded highway or jumping into an open fire. If someone is holding a gun to your head, you should be afraid but most of the fears we have are not real and sometime the get in the way of us accomplishing our goals and finding happiness and every other great opportunity in our lives. Many times we fear the things we want to have in our lives the most because they area different and unknown. Our greatest fear we have as human beings is the fear of the unknown or another words we fear “Change”. The great psychiatrist, Virginia Satir said, “Man’s greatest and highest need is not survival, it is familiarity”. Think about that. We will choose to continue with a bad habit even though we know it is bad for us and sometimes can even kill us ( Obesity,drug addicts and alcoholics for and example) even though we know the new habit will improve our lives. We are afraid and fear the unknown.
So, how do we overcome our fears and move forward in our lives? The greatest thing you can do is be in the present moment, focusing all your attention and energy on what you are doing at the time. If you are doing this you can’t be thinking about the past or the future which do not exists at this moment in time. How do you do that? The homework exercise I am giving you today will help you be in the present moment and focus all your attention on what you are currently doing. The exercise takes about 1 minute to do, that is it! It can be done anywhere and I do it anytime I am going to do something important like speaking in front of a group, writing or coaching a client. You can do it to improving your studying capabilities or before you go to work. Use it anytime or place you choose.
Your Homework:
“The 9 Breath Exercise”
Find a quiet place (Do not do this while you are driving)
Close your eyes and breath in deeply through your nose (if you can’t breath through nose, your mouth is fine)
As you exhale out, let go of all your thoughts of things from your past (Repeat that 2 more times)
Now, breath in deeply
As you exhale out, let go of all your thoughts about things you have to do in the future (Repeat that 2 more times)
Now, breath in deeply
As you exhale out, focus all your attention, energy, thoughts and skills on what you want to accomplish now in this moment in time (Repeat 2 more times)
Open your eyes and Be Amazing!!!
Scott Schmaren’s Bio
Scott Schmaren is a nationally known speaker, hypnotist and author. He has spent over 20 years learning powerful success technologies. He has used what he has learned and created to transform his life, losing 180. He has appeared on the Oprah Winfrey Show. Oprah said, “If Scott can do it, I can do it and so can you! Scott’s techniques are being used for business, weight management, overcoming obstacles, achieving goals and many other things. Scott is co-author of the book, Stepping Stones to Success, along with Jack Canfield , Deepak Chopra and Dr. Denis Waitley. Scott’s forthcoming book is titled, “Your Ultimate Visionary Mind: Transforming Your Life in 30 Minutes a Day”.